Sunday 21 December 2014

Saturday 20 December 2014

SIRI YA HERUFI YA MWANZO YA JINA LAKO

HERUFI A

Mwenye jina linaloanziana na herufi A ni mtu anayependa mambo makubwa, anajiamini na mwenye uwezo wa kutimiza malengo yake. Ni mtu mwenye tahadhari, mchangamfu na mpenda matukio. Anapenda Kuheshimiwa, anapenda Mamlaka, na ana kiburi, na hasira. 

HERUFI B
wenye jina linaloanziana na herufi B ni mtu, mkarimu, muaminifu, na hupenda kazi. Ni Jasiri, shujaa na mkatili katika vita au pale anapotaka kulinda vilivyo katika himaya yake. 

HERUFI C
Mwenye jina linaloanziana na herufi C ni mtu wa kukubadilika badilika, mshindani na hupenda kupigania malengo yao wanayopenda. Ni watu wa wabunifu na wanaopenda mawasiliano.

HERUFI D
Mwenye jina linaloanziana na herufi D ni mtu anayependa usawa, Biashara. Ni watu wanaopenda kuamrisha na mwenye kupenda usafi. Ni jeuri na wenye msimamo. 

HERUFI E
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi E ni mtu mwenye roho nzuri ,yenye mapenzi na huruma. mwenye kupenda uhuru katika mapenzi na mchangamfu. Kinyume na hivyo atakuwa ni mtu asiotegemewa na kigeugeu. 

HERUFI F
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi F ni mtu mwenye mapenzi,huruma , roho nzuri na ana uwezo wa kuwafariji watu. Ni mtetezi wa watu na mwenye huzuni lakini ni mzito wa kufanya maamuzi. 

HERUFI G
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi G ni mtu mwenye mwenye imani ya kidini na nguvu za kiroho. Ana kipaji cha kubuni na uwezo wa kutatua matatizo ya watu. ni mtu mwenye hisia kali,msomi, mpweke na mkaidi wa kukubali ushauri wa kutoka kwa watu.

HERUFI H
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi H ni mtu mwenye ubunifu na nguvu katika biashara, hupata faida kubwa kutokana na jitihada na bidii zake. ni mwenye mawazo mengi, mchoyo na mbinafsi. 

HERUFI I
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi I ni mtu mwenye kupenda sheria, ana huruma na utu. Wakati mwingi hajiamini na ni mwenye hasira za haraka. 

HERUFI J
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi J ni mtu mwenye matamanio,mkweli, mkarimu na muerevu. asiyekubali kushindwa na hupata mafanikio makubwa. Wakati mwingine anakuwa ni mtu mvivu na aliyekosa mwelekeo. 

HERUFI K
 Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi K ni mtu mwenye jeuri. mwenye msimamo thabiti,mashuhuri na mwenye uwezo wa kushawishi na kuamsha hisia za watu wana uwezo wa utambuzi ambao watu wengi hawana. ni mtu asioridhika na hali ya kimaisha. 

HERUFI L
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi L ni mtu wa vitendo, mwenye hisani na aliyejipanga vizuri kimaisha. Huwa wanapata ajali mara kwa mara. 

HERUFI M
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi M ni mtu mwenye kujiamini sana, mchapakazi na hupata mafanikio. ni mtu mropokaji,mwenye haraka na mwepesi kukasirika. 

HERUFI N
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi N ni mtu mwenye ubunifu, hisia kali na hupenda kuwasiliana lakini ana wivu sana. 

HERUFI O
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi O ni mtu mwenye subra, mvumilivu na mwenye bidii ya kusoma. Ni mtu mwenye kupenda kutumikia jamii na mwenye uwezo mkubwa wa kudhibiti hisia.

HERUFI P
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi P ni mtu mwenye uwezo wa kuamrisha na hekima kubwa. Ana nguvu za kiroho lakini anapenda sana kujitumbukiza kwenye mambo ya watu.

HERUFI Q
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi Q ni mtu mwenye kupenda mambo ya asili. Ni watu wasiyoelezeka nawana uwezo wa kuonyesha vitu visivyojulikana hata hivyo ni mtu aliyepooza sana.

HERUFI R 
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi R ni mtu mwenye uvumilivu, wenye huruma lakini ana hasira za haraka. Muda wote anakuwa mpenda amani.

HERUFI S
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi S ni mtu mwenye mvuto mkali wa kuleta utajiri. Ni watu wenye maamuzi ya ghafla na hupenda mageuzi makubwa.

HERUFI T
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi T ni mtu mwenye kupenda ushauri wa kiroho, anatumia nguvu za ziada kusaidia watu na hupata mafanikio baada ya muda mrefu. Ni watu wenye hisia kali sana na ni wepesi kushawishika.

HERUFI U
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi U ni mtu mwenye bahati kubwa kwa ujumla. Anapenda uhuru katika mapenzi. Lakini ni mtu mbinafsi, mwenye tamaa na aliyekosa maamuzi.

HERUFI V
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi V ni mtu Mchapakazi, wenye bidii na asie choka. Hata hivyo ni watu wasiotabirika.

HERUFI W
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi W ni mtu muwazi, wachangamfuu kupita kiasi na mwenye uwezo wa kutambua mtu mwema na mbaya. Ni watu wenye tamaa na hufanya mambo ya hatari.

HERUFI X 
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi X ni mtu asiyependa kuwekewa vizuizi katika kwenye anasa na ni rahisi kujiingiza kwenye uzinzi na kujitoa uaminifu.

HERUFI Y (YASINTA)
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi Y ni mtu mwenye kupenda Uhuru na hawapendi kupingwa jambo lao lolote. Ni watu wanaokosa uamuzi na husababishia kupoteza bahati katika maisha.

HERUFI Z
Mwenye jina linaloanzia na herufi Z ni mtu mwenye kupenda matumaini na amani. Ni wenye msimamo mkali ila wanashauriwa kufikiria kabla ya kuamua jambo.

MACHO HUONYESHA HISIA KATIKA MAPENZI






yapende macho yako wakati wote na pia tumia macho yako kufahamu hisia za mapenzi ya mwenza wako

KUELEKEA CHRISTMASS, UNGEJUA MUMEO/MKEO/MPENZI WAKO ATAKUWA NA TABIA ALIZONAZO JE UNGEMKUBALI?

  1. Kama ungejua mumeo au mkeo atakuwa na tabia aliyonayo sasa ugekubali kuoana naye? 

2. Je umeoa/kuolewa na mtu uliyemtaka; ni chaguo lako halisi? 


3. Sababu gani zinakufanya uendelee kuishi na mkeo/mumeo hadi sasa Je (watoto, sababu ndoa ya kikristo haina talaka/wazazi watakulaani ukitengana nae/navumilia/bado nampenda/ tunaishi kwa mazoea?) 


4. Sababu gani iliyokufanya uwe na uhusiano wa kingono nje ya ndoa?(kuchuja kwa mwenzako, tamaa ya mwili, marafiki wabaya, kasoro ya kimaumbile ya mwenzangu, tamaa ya mali/ kukosekana kwa maelewano ndani ya nyumba).


Majibu bila shaka unayo lakini tunaweza kukusaidia zaidi....

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Brother Kalu
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Dalili 13 za mwanamke mjamzito

by Gordon Kalulunga 
 

TANGU niwe mmoja wa waandishi wa habari 5 waliobahatika kufauru usaili kati ya waandishi 72 Tanzania na kujifunza na kubobea kuandika habari za afya ya uzazi nchini Tanzania tangu mwaka 2012 nimejionea, nimesikia, nimegusa, nimenusa wakati mwingine kuyaishi maisha na wanawake wajawazito na hata ambao bado hawajawa wajawazito… 


Nieleze wazi kuwa mafunzo hayo niliyapata kupitia program ya Fellowship inayoratibiwa na mfuko wa vyombo vya habari Tanzania maarufu kama Tanzania Media Fund (TMF) na kufundishwa na madaktari bingwa wa masuala ya afya ya uzazi. 


Moja ya mambo ambayo nilijifunza kutoka kwa wataalamu hasa madaktari nikiwa field, kusoma mitandao na baadhi ya wanawake waliosema wazi wazi kuhusu dalili za ujauzito na kati ya nyingi nilizoelezwa kati yake 13 nimeona nikushirikishe katika makala hii ya uchambuzi.


Mwanamke anapopata ujauzito kwa kawaida huwa anaanza kuona dalili ambazo si za kawaida. Na ni wakati huo ambao ni muafaka kwake kuanza kuuchunguza mwili wake. 


Inaonesha kuwa homoni zinazosambaa mwilini mara tu unapopata ujauzito husababisha mabadiliko kadhaa katika mwili wake ambayo yanaweza kugundulika kabla hata ya uchunguzi halisi wa kujua kama mjauzito au la. 


1. Maumivu kwenye matiti.
Hii ni dalili ya kawaida ya ujauzito ambapo nguvu za homoni mwilini huongezeka wakati yai linavyopata “rutuba”, jambo ambalo huongeza wingi wa damu na kuyafanya matiti ya mwanamke kuvimba na kuwa makubwa isivyo kawaida. 


2. Maumivu mwilini
Baadhi ya wznawake wanajisikia maumivu kama vile wanataka kuingia katika siku zao. Kwa kawaida hali hii hutokea wakati yai likiwa linasafiri kwenda katika chumba cha mimba. Hivyo, hali hiyo husababisha sehemu hiyo itanuke taratibu na kusababisha maumivu hayo. 


3. Kutokwa damu bila kutegemea
Wanawake wengi hufikiria kutokwa na damu kidogo ni dalili ya kuwa katika siku zao. Lakini, katika hali halisi, kutokwa damu kusikotegemewa, huwakumba asilimia 25 ya wanawake wakati wa kurutubika kwa yai na iwapo utaona hedhi inakuwa fupi au inafanyika katika hali ambayo si ya kawaida, mwanamke anashauriwa kwenda kufanya kipimo cha ujauzito au kujipima mwenyewe na kifaa cha kupimia ujauzito.. 


4. Kuchoka
Mwanamke anapojisikia kuchoka na kukosa raha, au kutaka hata kulala wakati akiwa kazini, wakati huo mwili wake unakuwa unajirekebisha kuingia katika kipindi kipya cha mabadiliko. 

Inaelezwa kuwa katika kipindi cha mwanzo cha ujauzito ni muda ambao mtoto tumboni huanza kutumia sehemu ya nguvu za mwanamke na hivyo kumletea uchovu na usingizi. 


5. Chuchu kuwa nyeusi
Chuchu huanza kubadilika rangi yake kutokana na chembechembe za uhai (seli) kuanza kufanya kazi kwa nguvu zaidi hata hivyo wanawake wenye ngozi nyeusi hawawezi kuiona dalili hii mapema hadi muda wa kama wiki kumi zipite. 


6. Kichefuchefu
Hali hii huwapata asilimia 85 ya wanawake wanapopatwa na ujauzito, ambapo nyakati za asubuhi ndipo hasa hujionyesha. 


7. Mwili kuvimba
Kuna wakati kupungua kwa nguvu za uyeyushaji chakula kunaweza kumsababishia mwanamke kuona tumbo limevimba na nguo zikawa zinambana kutokana na chakula kujaa katika utumbo. Lakini hali hiyo ikiendelea na ukaona siku zako haziji, basi ni vyema ukatambua kwamba tayari una ujauzito na kinachokupasa ni kwenda kuhakikisha. 


8. Kwenda haja ndogo mara kwa mara
Mwanamke kwenda haja ndogo kila mara ni dalili kwamba kibofu kimeanza kufanya kazi ya ziada, ambapo huwa kinafanya kazi ya kuondoa maji kwa uthabiti zaidi wakati wa ujauzito. 

Hali hii pia hujitokeza mwishoni mwa ujauzito, ambapo kibofu kitakapokuwa kinarudia hali yake ya kawaida baada ya kufanya kazi kwa muda mrefu. 


9. Tamaa ya vitu mbalimbali
Kutokana na mwili kuwa na “mzigo” wa ujauzito na hivyo kuchoka, hali hiyo humfanya mwanamke kutamani vitu mbalimbali ili kukidhi mabadiliko yaliyojitokeza katika mwili wake. Hii ni pamoja na kutaka vyakula fulani au kufanya mambo ambayo hapo nyuma alikuwa hayapendi. 


10. Kuumwa kichwa
Kuongezeka kwa damu kunaweza kusababisha kichwa kuuma japokuwa si sana, hususani katika wiki za mwanzo za ujauzito. Hata hivyo, hali hii hukoma mwili unapojirekebisha na mzunguko wa homoni unaotokana na ujauzito. 


11. Kufunga choo.
Homoni ambazo husababisha mwili kuvimba pia husababisha kufunga choo kutokana na mfumo wa kuyeyusha chakula kutofanya kazi vyema. Hata hivyo hali hii inaweza kujitokeza zaidi wakati ujauzito unapoendelea kukua. 


12. Kuwa na hasira
‘’Kutokana na kuongezeka kwa homoni za utendaji kazi mwilini, hali hiyo itakusababishia uchovu, na kukufanya kuwa na hasira,”anasema Melissa Goist, Profesa na Mtalaama wa Masuala ya Uzazi wa Chuo Kikuu cha Ohio, Marekani. 


13. Kuongezeka kwa joto mwilini Kipimo cha joto la mdomo ni muhimu katika kutambua hali ya ujauzito. Kwa kawaida joto huongezeka kwa nyuzi moja au zaidi wakati yai likiwa linatunga mimba. Hali hiyo ikiendelea kwa zaidi ya wiki mbili, itakuwa inaonyesha dhahiri kwamba kuna “mtoto anakuja”.
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JE UNA UFAHAMU MZURI KUHUSU KONDOMU NA UKIMWI? SOMA HAPA

KONDOMU ni kifaa/ zana iliyotengenezwa mahususi kuvalisha uume au kuwekwa ukeni wakati wa kujamiiana.Nazo hubana kutokana na umbile la uume au uke.

Kondomu hizi zipo za aina tofauti kutokana na muda na vipindi zilipotengenezwa, nazo ni kama ifuatavyo:-
Awamu ya I – zilizotengenezwa kwa mimea.

Hizi zilitengenezwa mahususi kama kinga dhidi ya maambukizo ya vimelea vya ugonjwa wa kaswende [ugonjwa wa kifaransa]
Awamu ya II – kutokana na utumbo wa kondoo.

Dr. Condom alifahamika kama mgunduzi wa kondomu hizi, naye alikuwa ni dakatari wa Mfalme Charles II.

 Alimshauri Mfalme kutumia kama kinga kutokana na magonjwa ya zinaa kutokana na tabia yake ya kuwa na wanawake wengi nje ya ndoa yake.

Awamu ya III – kutokana na mpira

Hizi zilitengenezwa kwa urahisi na kwa wingi na zikawa ndizo pekee zenye uwezo wa kudhibiti mimba hadi miaka ya 1960 vilipogunduliwa na vidonge vya majira.

JE KONDOMU NI SALAMA?
Tunaelezwa kuwa kondomu hutengenezwa kwa ustadi mkubwa kiasi kwamba haziwezi kuruhusu kitu chochote kupita.

Lakini tafiti mbalimbali zilizofanyika zinaonyesha kuwa kondomu zaweza kuvuja kutokana na mazingira halisi ya utengenezaji wa latex.

Wengine wanadai kuwa ili kuzifanya imara, kondomu zimetengenezwa kwa kupishanisha pande mbili ili kuziba udhaifu wa kila upande.

Hata hivyo watengenezaji wanasahau kuwa mazingira ya matumizi ya kondomu katika ngono hayalingani na majaribio waliyofanya ya kujaza maji au hewa ili kupima kama maji na hewa vinapita.

Katika tendo la ngono ipo misuguano ya namna mbalimbali inayosababisha kubadilisha mazingira ya kondomu na kuidhoofisha.

Kutokana na tafiti hizo imefahamika kuwa kondomu hazina uwezo wa kuzuia mbegu za kiume kupenya wakati wote.

Upana wa kipenyo cha mbegu ni makroni 5 wakati upana wa kipenyo cha kirusi cha ukimwi ni makroni 0.1

Kwa maneno mengine mbegu ya kiume ni kubwa mara 50 ya kirusi cha ukimwi.

Vile vile tafiti zimeonyesha kuwa kondomu haina uwezo wa kuzuia maambukizo ya magonjwa ya zinaa vikiwemo virusi vya ukimwi kwa kiwango cha asilimia mia moja.

 Hivyo tunaweza kusema kuwa, kondomu si salama kwa asilimia mia moja.
Kondomu zina kiwango cha kushindwa cha kati ya asilimia 10 na 15 na wengine wanasema hata asilimia 20.

Wasambazaji na wahamasishaji wa matumizi ya kondomu hawapendi kusikia ukweli huo na wanafanya jitihada kubwa ya kuficha ukweli huo.

Matangazo yatolewayo kupitia mabango ya barabarani, katika televisheni, radio na hata magazeti yanawarubuni watu yakiwaaminisha kuwa kondomu humkinga mtumiaji kwa kiwango cha asilimia 100%

Huko ni kukengeusha ukweli na kukiuka maadili ya kitaaluma.
Wengi kama sio wote wateteao matumizi ya kondomu hufanya hivyo kwa sababu ya maslahi ya kifedha na kibiashara.

Tukiongozwa na dhamiri safi, lazima tukiri ukweli uliopo na tuwaeleze watumiaji, ili tusijekuwa sababu ya kifo chao.

Kila kondomu inaposhindwa [itumikapo] kama kinga dhidi ya maambukizo ya virusi vya ukimwi ] humaanisha kifo.
    


Udhaifu wa kondomu Kiufundi,Matumizi, Kimazingira
    Udhaifu wa kiufundi
Wasambazaji wanatueleza kuwa kondomu zilizotoka kiwandani zikiwa na ubora unaotakiwa zikitumika wakati wote na kwa usahihi zina uwezo wa kukinga kwa kiwango hadi cha asilimia 97.

Zisipotumika vizuri zina kiwango cha kushindwa cha asilimia 14.

Kiwango cha kushindwa kwa kondomu kuzuia maambukizo ya magonjwa ya zinaa hutofautiana kutokana na aina ya magonjwa ya zinaa.

Kondomu zaweza kuzuia kwa kiwango fulani maambukizo ya magonjwa ya zinaa yanayosafiri kwa njia ya ute, lakini haziwezi kuzuia magonjwa ya zinaa yanayoambukizwa kwa mgusano wa mwili kama vile "herpes" na "human papillomavirus"; au magonjwa yanayoambukizwa kutokana na vidonda au malengelenge yaliyoko kwenye via vya uzazi kama vile kaswende.
Hali hiyo inatokana na:

Watengenezaji wameruhusu udhaifu wa kiufundi kama zao la kiwandani lililotengenezwa na kazi ya mikono ya binadamu [acceptable quality limit] kwa kiwango Fulani kwa nchi mbalimbali. 

Mfano, Marekani kiwango kilichokubaliwa ni asilimia 99.6 kwa kutoruhusu kondomu kuvuja. 


Uingereza asilimia 97, Uholanzi asilimia 96. 5. Hivyo katika kila idadi ya kondomu itumikayo kwa wakati mmoja kuna kiwango cha kuvuja kati ya asilimia 0.4 (USA); 3% (Britania); 3.5% (Holland).

    Kondomu huzeeka
Kwa kadiri zisivyotumika kwa muda mrefu ndivyo hivyo zinaaendelea kuzeeka. 

Kwa hiyo mtumiaji kondomu wa miaka 3 au 4 baada ya kondomu hiyo kutengenezwa yumo katika hatari zaidi kuliko anayetumia kondomu mara tu baada ya kutoka kiwandani.

Utafiti mmoja umeonyesha kuwa kiwango cha kupasuka kwa kondomu kiliongezeka kutoka 3.6% kwa kondomu mpya hadi 18.6% kwa kondomu zilizotumika miaka kadhaa baadaye.

    Kondomu hupasuka.
Kiwango cha kupasuka hutegemea aina ya kilainisho kilichotumika na aina ya kondomu. Kwa mujibu wa tafiti 15 zilizofanywa na "Contraceptive Technology" yalionyesha kuwa katika kondomu 25,184 zilizotumika 4.64% zilipasuka.

Ingawaje kondomu za latex zinaonekana kuwa na kiwango kidogo sana cha kupitisha virusi vya ukimwi, hatari kubwa ya matumizi yake imo katika uwezekano wa kondomu kupasuka, kuteleza na kuteleza.

Kwa hiyo hata kama ni virusi vichache tu vinaweza kupenya, kiwango cha maambukizo kitakuwa kikubwa kadiri kondomu zinavyosambazwa kwa wingi na kadiri watu wanavyojihusisha na vitendo vya ngono wakiamini katika matumizi ya kondomu.

Udhaifu katika matumizi

    Matumizi mabaya: yaani kutovaa vizuri, kuvaa nje ndani, aina ya ngono, urefu wa muda wa ngono, pia kutokana na uelewa mdogo hasa kwa wasojua kusoma na kuandika na wale wakaao mbali na mijini.

    Kuteleza na kuvulika kutokana na hali ya uume kuwa mdindifu au la; upana au wembamba; mrefu au mfupi. 

Pia kutokana na tendo la ngono na hali ya mtumiaji na mazingira ya matumizi. 


Kutokana na umri wa mtumiaji, kama ni mtoto, kijana, mtu mzima au mzee.
Kutumia kondomu ambazo muda wake umepita. Mfano wanaotumia gizani , katika hali ya ulevi, kutokujua kusoma, kuchunguza na kugundua kama muda wake umepita.
     
Mazingira ya kingono yakishawekwa, watu wanatawaliwa na mihemuko ya juu ya ngono kiasi kwamba hawawezi kuchunguza tarehe ya ukomo wa matumizi ya kondomu.

Ingawa watengenezaji wanashauri kutotumia kondomu iliyobadilika rangi au iliyokauka, tabia za watumiaji hazina nafasi ya kuzingatia ushauri huo.
    
Lengo la mtumiaji laweza kusababisha matumizi kuwa mabaya. Mtu mwenye virusi vya ukimwi, anajiwekea lengo kwamba hataki kufa peke yake, atafanya jitihada za kutokutumia vizuri ili mwenzake [ambaye anaamini hajaambukizwa] aweze kuambukizwa ili, "nisife peke yangu".

Vilevile katika siku hizi za dawa za kupunguza makali ya kuzaliana virusi vya ukimwi, mtu anaweza kuonekana mwenye afya nzuri kabisa, na anaweza kumshawishi mwenzake kuachana na kondomu kwa vile "wanaaminiana".

Kwa hiyo mambukizi yanaweza kuwa makubwa kutokana na kutowadhibiti wale waliokwisha ambukizwa.

  udhaifu wa kimazingira
Huu unatokana na hali zifuatazo:-  kibinadamu, kimaumbile na Kibinadamu.

Udhaifu wa kondomu waweza kusababishwa na usafirishwaji, yaani muda unaotumika kusafiri kutoka sehemu zinapotengenezwa hadi mahali zinapotumika;

ii. Kimaumbile
Vyombo vya usafirishaji  na usalama wa vyombo hivyo;

Kondomu zinazosafirishwa katika meli, zikiwa baharini kwa miezi kadhaa kabla hazijafika katika nchi lengwa na katika hali ya joto ndani ya makontena zinakuwa na kiwango hafifu katika ubora wake.

Udhaifu wa sehemu ya kuhifadhi kondomu pamoja na vyombo vya kuhifadhia.
source. Human Life International.
Gordon Kalulunga,

Information and Media Consultant

P.O. Box 705, Mbeya-Tanzania

Tel: 255 (0)754 440749
e-mail: uhaiwamama@gmail.com
www.udakumsumari.blogspot.com

Friday 19 December 2014

MAMBO MUHIMU UNAYOTAKIWA UYAFANYE KABLA YA KUOA AU KUOLEWA


MOJA ya mambo ambayo yanakosekana katika nyumba za ibada ni mafundisho ya mahusiano.

Watu wengi hawajui kuwa mtu aliyeolewa na hajaolewa au kuoa, ana haki ya kupata elimu ya ndoa.

Unaweza kujiuliza kuwa kwanini ndoa nyingi zina shida? Jawabu ni kwamba wengi wanajua ndoa baada ya kuingia kwenye ndoa, hawajawahi kupata elimu ya mahusiano.

Ni sawa na kumfundisha dereva kuendesha gari.

Wengi wamekosa elimu ya mahusiano au kuoa au kuolewa, vijana na mahusiano, bali wengi wana elimu za upako wa mafanikio na toa ndugu toa ndugu ndiyo masomo tuliyoyazoea.

Mfumo wa elimu tuliyonayo nao ni tatizo. Kwa mfano kwenye Biblia hakuna neno linalosema rafiki au mchumba.

Huwezi kukuta kitu kinachoitwa, urafiki, uchumba baadaye ndoa.

Ngoja nikuambie, Mathayo Mtakatifu sura ya 1;1-23. Mariamu alipoposwa….. haisemi alichumbiwa! Lakini katika utamaduni wa kimagharibi leo hii watu wanasema kuwa mchumba wa Yusufu.

Mchumba huwa anapimwa, ndiyo maana watu wanakuwa na wachumba wengi kweli na hatimaye uchumba unavunjika kwasababu hakuna mtu anayeenea kwenye utimilifu.

Kuna fix za kifikra ambazo zina ugonjwa wa kufisha, kesho unaweza kulia ukiendekeza kumtafuta mchumba badala ya kumtafuta mume au mke.

Akina dada wengi wanaomba na kusugua magoti wakiomba wapate wachumba.

Maandiko yanasema kuwa, ‘’Mjibu mpumbavu kutokana na upumbavu wake’’
Mtu ana wachumba kadhaa, kisha anaanza kumuomba Mungu ampe mume au mke huku akiwa na vinyago vyake. Majibu yatakuja kama anavyowaza. 

Yaani tayari wana fikra, vinyago na maamuzi yao kati ya wale wachumba waliopo moyoni na kichwani.

Mungu atamjibu mtu kutokana na elimu aliyonayo ya urafiki, uchumba kisha ndoa.

 Walio kwenye ndoa wengi wanajuta kwasababu wameoa au kuolewa na rafiki….

Ukikaa na mtu utasikia anakuambia, mtumishi nimeumia, tunakuabudu Bwana, utafikiri upako umetembea, kumbe watu wana kesi zao na nafsi zao zimepigwa.

Mimi kama mwalimu ambaye sawa na Daktari, nikianza kufuatilia ninajua.
Ukimuuliza vipi ina maana una chimichimi ya roho mtakatifu ndiyo maana kila tunapoanza kuabudu analia?

Ukidadisi mtu anakumbia kuwa, nilikuwa na mchumba akaniambia utanioa, akamwambia na rafiki yangu na mwingine…..

Nafsi za watu wa Mungu nyingi zimeumizwa na kuna kesi nyingi za kuachwa kuliko kesi za uhalifu mwingine.

Ukiomba mchumba, wanaweza kuja wengi kisha unapoanza kuburuzana nao unachoka kisha unatumbukia popote…..

Jambo hili la ndoa na uchumba ni gumu kwasababu vijana wengi ni wavivu kujifunza maandiko ya Mungu bali wanataka watafuniwe kila kitu na kulishwa.

Mungu ni roho, alimuumba mtu kwa mfano wake, akasema nendeni duniani mkazae na kuongezeka. Maandiko yanaposema Mtu, ina maanisha mfano wa roho.

Kwenye ulimwengu wa roho, Mungu aliumba mtu mke na mtu mume na ndiyo maana amekataza kuzini.

Maana yake ni kwamba kila mmoja ana mke wake na ana mume wake kwasababu kila mmoja aliumbwa na wake.

Ukiishika elimu hiyo, hautalia kwasababu eti hujapata mume au mke. Mbinguni kuna roho nyingi zinazataka kuja duniani, hivyo tuliopo tumepata neema ya kutangulia kuzaliwa.

Unapomuona mwanaume anapita, ujue kuwa huyo ni mume wa mtu na mwanake anayepita ni mke wa mtu.

Tatizo watu wanaomba kwa Mungu wapate mke au mume huku wakilia! Inashangaza mtu unaenda kudai deni lako huku akilia. Maana yake hajui haki yake, yaani imani zetu hazijawa sawa.

Kama ndani yako una usongo wa kuoa au kuolewa, fanya hivi. Kwa imani nenda kamnunulie na suti iweke ndani maana kwa imani yupo. Acha kushika yeyote mwisho utashika hata majoka.

Mungu hupendezwa na mtu mwenye imani na anamletea. Acha kulia.

Wanaume ngoja niwaambie. Mungu alipokuwa akiumba, alimtanguliza Brother men, kisha akamlaza usingizi na kuchomoa ubavu akamtengeneza mwanamke. Maana yake ni kwamba mwanamke wa kwako yupo, labda uwe towashi.

Wanawake hampaswi kufifia ngozi kwamba hamtaolewa, maana usigeweza kuumbwa bila wa kwako kuwepo na wala hajafa bali yupo, cha kufanya amini. Kanunue na suti kaweke ndani, anza kufanya maandalizi…

Kuweni na imani inayowekwa kwenye matendo, msiamni kuwa mtakosea.

Sehemu nyingine huwa nawafundisha kuwa, ukishatambua kuwa wa kwako yupo, tulia au subiri.

Kwa kuwa hatuamini kuwa wa kwako yupo, hatutulii, na kwa kuwa tunaanza kaba ya majira na wakati ndipo tunapoeekea kwenye kuumia na majuto ya uchumba na ndoa.

Wimbo uiobora 3;5 ….msiyachochee mapenzi wala kuyaamsha……Mungu anasema hayo kwasababu kabla ya Mungu kuyaamsha, wewe unawahi.

Mfano; Sekondari mtu hasa wanawake, anapokuwa kidato cha pili tu au kabla ya hapo, anaanza kuomba, Mungu nipe Mume….. hebu jiulize wewe ulianza lini kuzitikisa mbingu za mapenzi…… jibu unalo.

Wanyakyusa wanao usemi kwa mtu mzima anayefanya mambo ya hovyo, unasema…..amakambo, akwesile ndili… yaani mtu huyo anasumbuliwa na bangi….alivuta lini?

Hapa namaanisha kuwa unaweza kukimbilia na ukapata mume maana hakuna mtu anayekuwa anazijua tabia za wenzake, kisha utaanza kusema kuwa aaaaa…kumbe hakuwa mwenyewe..

Ibrahimu haraka zake zinasumbua kule Israel mpaka leo. 

Niwaambie ukweli kuwa haraka zina hasara zake sawa na utunzaji wa mtoto njiti ni kazi kubwa. Hivyo ukiharakisha unaweza kupata mume au mke njiti…

Sijui kama ninaeleweka katika somo hili. Haraka zinaendana na akina dada kuongea harakaharaka, wanaume wengi hawapendi mwanamke wa namna hiyo.

Yesu aliwahi kujaribiwa na kahaba, mafarisayo miili yao ikawa nyang’anyang’a huku yule kahaba akitoa machozi na kufuta miguu ya Yesu kwa nywele zake, hivi ungekuwa wewe Brother men ungefanyaje hapo?

Usiwe na haraka. Watoto wa kike ndo wana speed kuliko hata dunia inavyozunguka jua.

Hamnoni alimpenda Tamali mpaka akaumwa…. Lakini baada ya kulala naye akamchukia na kumwambia Tamali aondoke na akamchukia kwelikweli…..tafakari.

Hapa kinachotendeka katika ulimwengu wa roho ni kependa umbo lakini my akionja hakuti kile ambacho alikuwa anakifikiri.

Mfano mzuri ni kwamba wanaume na wanawake wengi ambao wamedumu katika mapenzi hawaoani.

Mwanaume akitembea na mwanamke na kutokukuta alichokitarajia, anasema hata kwa wenzake kuwa ‘’demu mwenyewe mshamba na hana lolote’’ yote hiyo ni kuyachochea mapema na kuvua. 

Nitajuaje kama ndiye?

Kimaandiko unapomuomba Mungu, utawekewa rohoni kitu kinachoitwa mwongozo.

Utaona unasukumwa na jambo la kuolewa kama kuku navyosumbuka kutafuta eneo la kutagia, sawa na mtumishi wa Mungu anapotaka kufanya jambo la kiroho.

Jifunze kumsikiliza Mungu, ondoa moyoni kufikiri kuwa huyo unayefikiri na kumweka moyoni kama ni mwenyewe, huyo siyo. Achana naye maana roho ya mauti ipo juu yako. Tubu.  

MSIKILIZE MUNGU ILI ASIKUJIBU SAWA SAWA NA VINYAGO ULIVYOWEKA MOYONI MWAKO NA KUJIINGIZA POPOTE. 

HEBU JIULIZE, MPAKA SASA UNA VINYAGO VINGAPI?
Hili ni somo la sikio halisi, siku nyingine nitatoa mifano yangu halisi…..
Mungu awabariki na awasamehe wote wenye toba.


Gordon Kalulunga
Information and Media Consultant
P.O. Box 705, Mbeya-Tanzania
Tel: 255 (0)754 440749
WEB; www.kalulunga.blogspot.com

SODA INAVYOWEZA KUMFANYA MWANAUME KUWA TASA

Kinywaji cha coca cola kimeendelea kuwa maarufu duniani lakini utafiti mpya umeonyesha kuwepo uhusiano wa kunywa sana kinywaji hicho na matatizo ya uzazi kwa wanaume.
 
Kwa mjimu wa utafiti huo uliochapichwa kwenye Jarida la Epidemiology la Marekani, wanaume wanaokunywa zaidi ya lita moja ya coca cola kwa siku wanakabiliwa na hatari ya kuwa tasa. Wanaume waliotumia kinywaji hicho walikuwa na upungufu wa aslimia 30 ya mbegu za uzazi zilizohesabiwa, ikilinganishwa na wale ambao hawakutumia. 
 
Wanaume hao walionekana kuwa na matatizo ya uzazi zaidi kuliko wasiokunywa coca cola.

MWALIMU WA MADRASAT AMPA MIMBA MWANAFUNZI, ATUPWA JELA MIAKA 7



M
walimu wa Chuo cha Madrasa kilichopo Chake Chake, Pemba, Said Khamis Salum (31) ameanza kutumikia chuo cha mafunzo jela miaka 7 baada ya kutiwa hatiani kwa kumpa ujauzito mwanafunzi wake mwenye umri wa miaka 15 jina (linahifadhiwa).


Mwendesha Mashtaka wa Serikali ya Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar, Ali Bilali aliiambia Mahakama ya Chake Chake mbele ya hakimu, Khamis Ramadhan Abdalla kwamba mtuhumiwa alitenda kosa hilo miezi mitatu iliyopita .

Bilali alisema mashahidi watano waliitwa mbele ya Mahakama na kukiri kwamba mtuhumiwa alitenda kosa hilo. 

Alisema baada ya uchunguzi wa vinasaba ( DNA), uliofanywa Tanzania Bara ulionesha kwamba kwa asilimia 96 mtuhumiwa ndiye aliyempa ujauzito mwanafunzi huyo.

Hakimu Abdalla alisema ameridhishwa na ushahidi wote, ikiwemo ule wa kitaalamu wa vinasaba wa DNA, uliofanywa na wataalamu kutoka Tanzania Bara, unaoonesha kwamba ni kweli mtuhumiwa alitenda kosa hilo.

Alisema mtuhumiwa atatumikia chuo cha mafunzo jela miaka saba, na atakapotoka atalazimika kulipa fidia ya sh.milioni moja ikiwa ni fundisho kwa wengine kuacha kufanya vitendo hivyo vya udhalilishaji wa wanafunzi wa vyuo vya madrasa.

“Nimeridhishwa na mazingira ya makosa haya kwa mtuhumiwa na kubaini kwamba ni kweli amempa ujauzito mwanafunzi wake wa chuo, kitendo ambacho ni kinyume na sheria za serikali ya Mapinduzi ya Zanzibar,” alisema Adalla.

Mtuhumiwa alipopewa nafasi ya kujitetea, alikana kosa hilo na kusema anahisi kwamba alipitiwa na kurubuniwa na adui shetani, ambaye ndiye aliyemshawishi kufanya hivyo.


Hivi karibuni, akizindua kampeni ya kupambana na vitendo vya udhalilishaji, Rais wa Zanzibar, Dk Ali Mohamed Shein alikemea tabia ya baadhi ya walimu wa vyuo vya madrasa kuwafanyia ukatili wa kijinsia wanafunzi wao na wengine kuwapa ujauzito.


CHANZO: HABARILEO

Monday 30 June 2014

KAMPENI YA mama Ye! NA RAIS JAKAYA KIKWETE, WANAVYOENDELEA KUHAKIKISHA MAMA NA WATOTO WACHANGA HAWAFI JWA UZEMBE


In this issue....

At Mama Ye!, we believe that improving access to information is the very foundation of accountability. We have been working hard to bring together resources that will be useful to those of you working to improve maternal and newborn health so that they can be accessed via one website. This is why we have refreshed our Mama Ye! evidence pages to make them more accessible.
About the Mama Ye! website
The Mama Ye! website functions as an important repository for evidence and information. In addition to country-specific evidence, our sites in GhanaMalawiNigeriaSierra Leone and  Tanzania also act as channels for interactive communication with partners, supporters, the media, opinion-formers and decision-makers. They were built as a mechanism and platform for advocates to strengthen accountability. Our aim is to make basic evidence and essential core documents for planning, decision-making and advocacy easily accessible, quick to locate, well communicated, and packaged for both lay and expert audiences.

 We welcome your thoughts on the site – we are always looking at ways to improve it. Is there an expert opinion you would like to add to our blog or some evidence you would like to share? Please do get in contact with us if you have any ideas.
 The more people who have access to the evidence, the more likely we are to be able to make a difference to maternal and newborn survival.

Please feel free to share this resource with your networks so that others can benefit.

Recent Events in MNH

Launch of the Sharpened One Plan and RMNCH Scorecard
His Excellency, President Dr. JM Kikwete, the Deputy Minister of Health, Dr. Steven Kebwe, local government leaders, representatives of UN agencies and partners, advocates and academic experts came together in Dar es Salaam for a landmark event for reproductive, maternal, newborn and child health (RMNCH) in Tanzania. The refocused country strategic roadmap for accelerated reduction of maternal and newborn deaths,  The Sharpened One Plan, was launched at this event (see section on Current Evidence).


Also launched were: 1) the Tanzania RMNCH Scorecard, an innovative tool driven off the HMIS that has been developed to track progress and foster an environment of accountability at all levels; and 2) a Policy Brief: Women and Children First, that outlines the progress made, current equity and coverage gaps, where investment is most at need, who is being left behind, and the high-impact solutions to accelerate maternal and newborn survival before the end of 2015. Read more…
Pre-Launch Meeting with Regional Leaderships
The day before the launch of the Sharpened One Plan and RMNCH Scorecard regional administrations led by the regional commissioners from all regions of Tanzania came together for a pre-launch meeting to be familiarised with the national efforts for maternal and newborn survival, including presenting the evidence and the specific priorities. Representing an important initial activity to nurture mutual transparency and accountability, which is a key strategic area of the Sharpened One Plan, it is anticipated that regional leaderships will champion regional efforts to accelerate delivery of quality MNH services, in line with the national priorities. See more…
White Ribbon Alliance Day - In Tanzania the 15 March is a special day to remember all our mothers who did not survive childbirth and to urge all of us to take action to prevent the needless deaths of thousands of others.

This year's event was commemorated nationally in Rukwa region, with members of the White Ribbon Alliance Tanzania participating in a week full of activities held in Nkasi, Kalambo, and Sumbawanga Municipality, where hundreds of residents voluntarily donated blood for mothers and babies survival, culminating in a colourful national event held at Mtowisa community in Sumbawanga Rural where the Prime Minister was presented with thousands of signatures by residents from across Rukwa region urging the government to honour its promise to bring life-saving services closer to communities. See more..
MPs stand up for Safe Motherhood
Only days after the
 Tanzanian President had launched the sharpened plan of action for accelerated reduction of maternal, newborn and child deaths in Tanzania, the White Ribbon Alliance Tanzania (WRATZ), in partnership with the Parliamentary Group of Safe Motherhood, conducted an advocacy meeting with honourable MPs in the Parliamentary Grounds in Dodoma and got them united across parties, for the survival of mothers. Read more..
International Day of the Midwife
A special symposium,
launch of a special comic for respectful care, a public march in Dar city centre, free services for the community and the presence of the First Lady Salma Kikwete to grace the occasion, are the highlights of this year's International Day of Midwives (May 5) coordinated by the Tanzania Registered Midwives Association (TAMA)... See photos and read about the respectful care comic
World Blood Donor Day 2014

On 14th June Kigoma region hosted national celebrations of this year’s World Blood Donor Day, with a maternal theme of: ‘Safe Blood Saves Mothers Lives’. Residents across all of Kigoma’s districts - Buhigwe, Uvinza, Kakonko, Kibondo, Kasulu and Kigoma, turned out in unprecedented numbers to take action for maternal survival, with more than 3,000 blood units collected in only two weeks, more than half of the total blood units collected nationally in the same period.

Mama Salma Kikwete graced the national day, with the resounding message that we can save the lives of thousands of mothers and children who die needlessly every year because of the chronic shortage of safe blood supplies across our health facilities. Read more…

Current Evidence

The Sharpened One Plan 2014-15
The plan, launched by the President of Tanzania in May-14, is the country strategic roadmap for accelerated reduction of maternal and newborn deaths. It has been formed from three key pieces of evidence - the Countdown to 2015 Country Case Study, and the Mid Term Reviews of the National Road Map Strategic Plan and the Health Sector Strategic Plan III. The Sharpened One Plan aims to: i) Address the unmet need for family planning; ii) Address the gaps for coverage and quality of care at birth; and iii) Continue the progress already achieved in child health.

Launched at the same event was the: Tanzania RMNCH Scorecard, a tool developed to track progress and foster an environment of accountability at all levels.

Women and Children First: Countdown to ending preventable maternal, newborn and child deaths in Tanzania
This policy brief synthesises and summarises a number of important plans and analysis, including: i) The Countdown to 2015 Country Case Study analyses; ii) The MOHSW Mid Term reviews of The National Road Map Strategic Plan (The One Plan) 2008-2015, and iii) The Health Sector Strategic Plan III. It outlines the progress made, current equity and coverage gaps, where investment is most at need, who is being left behind, and the high-impact solutions to accelerate maternal and newborn survival before the end of 2015.

The State of the World’s Midwifery 2014: Tanzania country brief
This report describes the shortage of all health workers delivering care for women, mothers and babies in each of the 73 countries where progress in maternal and newborn survival is urgently needed. It describes whether these health workers are acceptable to the population, equitably distributed across the country, and educated, regulated and supported to provide high quality care.
Lancet Every Newborn Series
This series of articles, published in the Lancet, focuses on newborn babies, providing estimates of neonatal mortality and stillbirths and reporting on the slow progress in reducing newborn deaths. The series highlights the scale of under-reporting of newborn births and deaths, analyses data on newborn survival for 195 countries and outlines the interventions necessary to save lives.
Maternal Mortality from 1990-2013 in Tanzania
This profile of maternal mortality trends in Tanzania is published by United Nations agencies based on their latest estimates. The full report represents internationally comparable maternal mortality ratio (MMR) estimates, including trends from 1990 to 2013.

Improving Newborn Survival in Southern Tanzania (INSIST) Trial
This study, set up by Ifakara Health Institute, evaluates the impact and cost of an intervention seeking to both change behaviours at the community level, and also strengthen the local health system, to save the lives of newborn babies.
Save the Children released a report and a call to Ending Newborn Deaths globally
"This first day of a child's life is the most dangerous and too many mothers give birth alone on the floor of their home or in the bush without any life-saving help.  We hear horror stories of mothers walking for hours during labour to find trained help, all too often ending in tragedy." says Jasmine WhitBread, CEO of Save the Children.

Mama Ye! Facts & Figures on the Link between Water, Sanitation and Hygiene and Maternal & Newborn Health
This Facts & Figures flyer highlights the latest evidence on the link between water, sanitation and hygiene and maternal and newborn health.

Mama Ye! Factsheet on Tanzania's blood services
Mama Ye! has produced this factsheet to summarise the evidence on Tanzania’s blood services, including how much blood is collected and how much is needed. Additionally, this infographic describes how many lives of mothers could be saved if there was access to safe blood.

Success Stories

Mothers, wherever they live
Read birthing stories from around the wold in a book launched on March 8 to mark International Women's Day. In the book you will also find contributions from Rose Mlay of WRATZ and Chiku Lweno-Aboud of E4A Tanzania.
Journalists from all zones in Tanzania join Mama Ye!
It is about information sharing, accountability, reporting and generally bridging communication gaps among many groups in the Tanzanian public. UTPC members are excited to start the new cooperation. Read more

As we say good bye to John Tuppa, we celebrate him and the legacy he left behind
We reported about what a difference six months made in Mara. Sadly just after a milestone leadership meeting we lost a champion. But the foundation he helped to build stands strong. He was recognised and received an award at the launch of the country's Sharpened One Plan and A Promise Renewed for our mothers and babies.

MNH in the News

Check out Mama Ye! in the News and find out what has hit the headlines nationally and internationally on maternal and newborn health.

MNH Calendar

On 9 June 2014 the World Lung Foundation and partners will be conducting a national dissemination of results and key findings to date of their exciting intervention to bring comprehensive emergency obstetric and newborn care services closer to the communities who are missing out most on these life-saving services. (This has been held and will be reported on in next MNH newsletter)

From 17-20 June the MOHSW and RMNCH stakeholders from all over the country will meet up in Dodoma for the Annual Reproductive and Child Health Services Meeting to discuss RMNCH updates and priorities going forward. (This has been held and will be reported on in next MNH newsletter)

The MOHSW is planning national dissemination and roll-out of the Sharpened One Plan across all Tanzania’s regions over the next two months, schedule and timings of this roll-out will be shared once finalised so that stakeholders can reach out to participate in respective regional roll-out processes.

A country launch of the State of the World Midwifery 2014 Report - Tanzania Country Brief is anticipated to be conducted in the near future.

What will you be doing in the coming weeks/month? You are welcome to share your planned activities here - and/or summaries of activities conducted with links to reports etc. - we really want this newsletter to serve a purpose as a platform for all. Tell us and we will share with the rest of MNH stakeholders. Please forward your information to be shared to c.lweno-aboud@evidence4action.net

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Chiku Lweno-Aboud
To Kalulunga2006@yahoo.com

Jun 28 at 11:19 AM
Dear Colleague,